#BookReview Your Name Is Olga – A Compassionate Book About a Down’s Syndrome Girl

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Rate: 7/10

Judul aslinya “El Teu Nom és Olga” terbitan Spanyol. Aku dapet versi bahasa Inggrisnya di toko buku loak langganan waktu di Bandung. Isinya adalah kumpulan surat seorang ayah untuk anak perempuannya yang terlahir Down Sydnrome, yang diberi nama Olga.

Awal terbit, tahun 1989, setelah putrinya itu pun berusia 28 tahun, adalah masa dimana hal-hal seperti ini masih belum diterima dengan baik oleh para orang tua, informasi masih sangat terbatas, sehingga buku ini bisa jadi sangat menyentuh untuk banyak orang.

Alih-alih malu dan mengucilkan anaknya sendiri, beruntungnya Olga, dia punya kedua orang tua yang suportif, terus berusaha agar anaknya bisa tetap tumbuh cerdas dan bahagia, sambil belajar banyak tentang kehidupan melalui hari-hari yang mereka lewati, yang akhirnya dicurahkan dalam setiap surat yang ditulis sang ayah.

Penyebab Down Syndrome sendiri adalah karena kelebihan kromosom sehingga terjadi kelainan. Tidak melulu keturunan, tapi bisa juga karena berbagai faktor lain. “Menarik bukan, Olga? Karena kelebihan adalah yang justru menjadi sumber kekuranganmu”. Probabilitas terjadinya kelainan ini di dunia adalah sekitar 1:1000. Dan yang menarik di kisah ini adalah, orang tuanya tidak lantas mengetes diri mereka berdua karena tidak ingin bertendesi mencari tahu siapa salah satu yang paling bertanggung jawab atas apa yang terjadi, dan lalu memiiki rasa menyalahkan atas keadaan. Mereka justru lebih memilih untuk menerima dan berjanji untuk bekerjasama membesarkan putrinya itu.

Saat membaca, aku jadi terbayang bagaimana rasanya para calon orang tua yang sedang menunggu kelahiran anak mereka. Pantas saja jika ada masa dimana sudah tidak terlalu peduli lagi apa jenis kelamin sang jabang bayi, laki-laki atau perempuan, karena yang jauh lebih penting adalah bisa terlahir “sempurna” dan sehat seperti selayaknya.

 

Salam hangat dari Jakarta,

karena di tengah kesibukan pun harus tetap terus membaca

 

NB: Walaupun bukunya bisa dibilang cukup “tipis”, tapi aku post ini karena udah janji sama diri sendiri untuk sebisa mungkin review dan nulis soal buku-buku yang udah dibaca, biar gak lantas lupa tapi sedikit-sedikit bisa tetep inget. Cobain deh! 🙂

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My Review of “The Clash of Civilizations” by Samuel Huntington

 

Well, sometimes we read a book simply because every body does. Just like me with this one. I read it because this article said that it’s one of books in the reading list of students in top campuses like Harvard, Columbia, Princeton, etc. So I gave Huntington a try.

This book tells about fundamental civilizations globally. Interestingly, by just reading this book, we can be more acknowledged with role of each nation in this world and how they affect each other (which make me also want to learn again about maps and upgrade my geographical skill!! Ha ha >,<).

By following the stories, we can observe that the fundamental source of conflict in this new world will not be primarily ideological or primarily economic. The great divisions among humankind and the dominating source of conflict will be cultural (region, ethnic group, religious groups, all have distinct cultures at different levels of cultural heterogeneity). Or as R.R.Palmer said, “The wars of kings were over, the wars of people had begun”. The next world war, if there is one, will be a war between civilizations.

“The West and The Rest”. This polarization are also emerging yet I don’t really support this. Our people should not be manipulated and utilized by certain purpose of irresponsible party. Remember what happen with Iraq. “The struggle against American aggression, greed, plans, and policies will be counted as jihad and anybody who is killed on that path is a martyr”. “This is a war”, King Hussein of Jordan argued, “against all Arabs and all Muslims and not against Iraq alone”. The question is.. “is that really true??”. Or… Just like Western leaders who claim they are acting on behalf of “the world community”, the very phrase that become a euphemism to give legitimacy to the actions of them.. Do you really think that is right?? Or with what happened in Indonesia.. when Ahok is suspected to do… well, never mind -.- (I don’t wanna talk about it).

We should think more clearly in seeing diversities around us and be a part of civilization that embrace all the differences with an objective and a good way. That’s the least what I learned from this piece of Huntington. Go read by yourself.

In the middle of (very) bad times,

and I’m reading book about conflicts, instead

 

(For other reviews: https://www.goodreads.com/haniwww)

Also read: Review of “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg

#BookReview The Ocean At The End Of The Lane: When An Adult Is Just A Grown-Up Kid

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What impression do you get from the cover?

Yeay! A book for this month! (at the very verge of the month)

It’s so hard for finding reading time recently, so even finished reading the 180 pages short novel (not thick nor dense) feels like an accomplishment >,< #sad

Actually it was my first Neil Gaiman’s book, I’ve never read his work before. I think I heard his name quite a lot, but I didn’t sure what genre he usually write. So I didn’t expect much what the story would tells about.. fiction? mystery? drama? another world? or what? in the first chapters, I just let him surprise me…

But then I really surprised. The book was mix of them all, hahaha.. After read other people’s review, they just call it a “Gaiman’s genre”.

Opened with a middle-aged man (whose name is never mentioned – not even once) revisiting the place where he used to live with his parents and sister when he was seven. Then the place starts to bring back a strange sequence of memories as seen through the eyes of a young boy. So can u imagine? The narrator was the grown-up man, trying to tell haunting events through a kid’s perspective. Interesting.

Personally, besides the what-so-called fantasy part, it reminded me of things that children know and adults no longer understand and remember. We usually see things differently, so does how we do things. I remember when I was a kid, I confused seeing my mother and my sister crying.. I though that “hey, you’re adults.. you supposed to be mature enough to face anything in this world. You’re not me. I’m a kid, and only kids who allowed to whine and cry”. (but I didn’t say it directly to them, anyway). So many thoughts are changing.. but I always find that the way of thinking when we were kids are very exciting. I also can so relate with the boy character, the kid who lived in books more than he lived anywhere else. Even until now, I can say book is my sanctuary, the only place that can make me feel safe. People like us could drowned in the imaginary world, and even always observed surrounding and wondered how if the story that the book tell was really happened? Adults follow path, kids explore. And Im eager to capture all those states.

After all, I think it’s a kind of book that you have to read in one sitting. The creepy yet beautiful setting of Sussex, completed by British English that has specific sense of language, will bring you to your own exploration. And I guess I’ll be looking for another Gaiman’s after this.. Any idea?

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[BukuBaru] Filosofi Agile & Panduan Scrum

masih bau kertas, siap langsung disampul :3

So, ceritanya beberapa bulan lalu diminta jadi proof reader buat buku temen, sang master of #SCRUM, ceo-nya Agile Campus, yang juga front-end software developer, @RizkySyaiful. Kayaknya itu pas beberapa saat setelah aku nulis di blog “Scrum tu apaan sik?“, metode yang kayaknya jadi happening terutama karena disebutin di serial Silicon Valley-nya HBO. Awalnya sih sama Scrum-nya sendiri antara tertarik gak tertarik. Tapi kalo untuk jadi pembaca awal dari draft buku orang lain, itu rasanya menyenangkan, hehe.. Selain permintaan testimoni juga ditujukan untuk sekalian mewakili generasi Y yang dekat dengan dunia digital startup maupun ekosistem bisnis pada umumnya.

Hmm.. Setelah dibaca, ternyata buku ini bukan cuma ngomongin Scrum, horee.. tapi juga manajemen organisasi, sistem, tim, proyek dan segala unsur yang para entrepreneur mesti ngeh kalo pengen scale up. Dijelasin pula berdasarkan pengalaman-pengalaman secara jelas dan efektif. (Seefektif algoritma prohemer sekelas bro Rizky :p)

Dan akhirnya sekarang ni buku udah cetak & terbit untuk umum, yay! Cukup hepi juga liat hasilnya. Semoga bisa bawa manfaat buat orang-orang yang baca yaa.. Dan makasih juga buat bro Rizky yang udah jauh-jauh bawain buku fisiknya ini buat Hani =D

Jakarta, bulan puasa

Repost dari postingan di Path aku, hhe..

PS: Untuk pemesanan & pembelian, bisa kunjungi website rizkysyaiful.com 😉

Sheryl Sandberg – Lean In (Part 3)

In the 2nd chapter: Sit at The Table, Sheryl slapped me with her blatant truth about psychological tendencies that woman have. Something that might seems obvious, but we often reluctant to admit (like the institutional obstacles are not enough -.-“)

As woman, we rarely think about deserving achievement, position, or even compliment. We often give lower scores to ourselves about anything, while men do the reverse. Eventhough we’re good at something, we usually haunted by insecurity that we’re not good enough, there’s still a lack of something, and so on. When somebody congratulates us for a good news that they heard, we feel that we already being fraudelent and fooled them. When a plan gone aint as we wish, we always search the bad side and drop into a great degree (compared to men, who even can take that so easily). And know what? To complete all those messy feelings, these mental problems for women could take very serious impact for a long time. Oh, well~

And yea.. anyway, I got a new term from this chapter, that is: Impostor syndrome – phenomenon of capable people being plagued by self-doubt. Coz, for example, even when a woman was offered an executive position in a company, while everybody thinks that she is the fittest person for it, she herself might think hundred times more than man to receive and say “yes, I’m ready”. Hufft~

I think everybody should know this. Be a woman and a leader is not easy. We really need to adjust our intellectual and emotional capacity. Me myself is gonna practice more each day.. to think slightly like a man.. just feel good about achievement, regardless to its imperfection.. give higher scores to myself and feel deserve about many great things.. to not so desperate when bad luck comes… courage to take risks and make any opportunities fit for us… enjoy the life, coz the ups and downs are unavoidable. Just let it flow, Hani.. just let it flow.. not go with the flow, but GROW with the flow.. coz your happiness is all depend on you.
Wish me tons of lucks. Cheers!

Lean In – Sheryl Sandberg (Part 1)

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I was considering about which book I should read first, Steve Jobs autobiography or this Sheryl Sandberg’s, then my choice goes to this one, because its page aint even reach 31% of the competitor, haha… 217 over 716.

Actually I just read the foreword of this “Lean In”, but be in love in an instant. Sheryl is such a role model for any women who want to pursue career in technology industry, moreover in this global world. She is one of the man behind Google’s success, started from it was still a startup company in early 2000, and how she through many barriers to reach the top (until become the COO of Facebook) is something that could encourage and empower women, even when we have a family and responsible to our child. I like the part when she said “I do not believe that there is one definition of success or happiness. Not all women want career, not all women want children. Not all women want both”. And it is really true. I saw many of my married women friends are fully being a housewifes, not passionate to make a career, yet they’re (seem) happy. But for women who have potential and high expectations of making goals in life, and also ambitious to make progress for the better world, take a role in top position could give us strong and powerful voice to speak out about our needs and concerns.

Women face too many complex challenges, not to mention our own internal obstacles. As a moslem, I’m not fully support the feminist manifesto or equality in any aspects, but as an individu (who also want to achieve many things in life), by reignite the revolution, I hope more people will understand about our desire, so that could help us to ease the burden that we-have-manage-all-aspects-at-home-while-other-activities-are-only-choices.

I hope my future husband read this book (hehe..) and become please to share more things, include to do more at home (be a real partner) then we can compromise the gap, while support each other, so we can be not only happy as a family, but also happy as a person 🙂

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NB: Hey, i just knew something! If we want to make a comment in reading progress of Goodreads, we’re just allowed to write in no more than 420 characters! While when I’m just read 10 first pages of a book, I can even review (as you see above) multiple times of the limit. So I think post it on blog is a good option.

Anyway… The more I know about Sheryl, the more I adore. From workplace to home, college to world most respected company, anything. And the TIME magazine cover below is one of the most powerful pictures of her, so I print it and use it as a wall poster in my room. What do you think? 😀

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And readers, if you are also a women who lean in, you can join to LeanIn.org , a non-profit organization that Sheryl founded to empower all women to achieve their ambitions. Lets struggling together! *cheers* 😀

The Science of Luck – Bong Chandra

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Ok. I have to admit that this book is beyond my expectation. Quite good, because aint only based on theory, but he also relate it with his experience when facing the real condition. I like the part when he was doing a calculation of “unnecessary things”, but it could make us think more. For example, how many time wasted of doing this and that, a big amount if we use to do other things. He also sum up the effectivity of using English instead of bahasa, regards to the less time that we need to pronounce it, that if we do it for a long time, how many persons whom we can approach, either for business or anything. Like the other motivational books, it explain a lot about perspective and how to synchronize thought, body, and attitude. But off course, in this book Bong also promotes his seminars, business, and any classes that he provides. I cant imagine that he’s just a bit older than me. *sigh